I have been working in IT engineer area for more than 20 years, and found that "Communication" is also a technology for people.
I acquired NLP(Neuro Linguistic Programing) Trainer license in 2012, and improve everyone's communication.
I used three NLP technique for this purpose. 1) Strong purpose with five senses, achievable, and that makes all people happy. 2) Admitting drinking non-alchol drink, because I might like soda feeling. 3) Imagine bad hangover feeling and remember it with “anchor”.
It is used to say “Modeling technique is useful to be success, but there are few people can achieve their goal with modeling. Why?
A lot of people model the outcome of the modeled person like “talk”, “atmosphere” etc. but important thing is, The person’s “belief”, “Syntax of mind, mindset”, and “looks and body movement”.
Anthony Robbins described them in best seller “Unlimited Power”.
“Position change” skill is very effective for thinking from other’s point.
The first position = myself
The second position = another person in front of meThe third position = other person who look the person and me
Selfee photo might be taken on the second position. I took myself.
If you enroll envirionment into your selfee photo, it’s the third position, and we have to consider the relation between others and me. That makes the selfee photo being very attractive.
Calibration and Pacing are very important NLP technique.
At this time I watched the lady’s breath on youtube, that means the same timing of both person’s breath easily build good relation each other, that is one of the first contact points for communication.
“Selfee”, that is take a photo by myself has at least three psychological benefit for communication.
1. Mirroring/Matching tequnique
Working together for picture
Working together with their body movement, breeze etc. same.
3. cognitive dissonance
Once taking a friendly picture, people starts thinking good relation leads this photo.
Talking with open hart is very important for communication.
There are a lot of techniques to be open hart in NLP(Neuro Linguistic Programing). One of them is “Mirroring Technique” that is, behave like a scene of mirror of the person you are talking, like move same gesture.
But this is a little difficult because the person easily notice that you are using Mirroring.
I recommend to mirror just the leanness of the pasture of the person you are facing. Thats very effective!
People in a difficult situation tend to think “associate” situation like the photo above, and vice versa, in a happy situation tend to think “desociate” like the photo below.
If you are in a difficult situation, I recommend to think desociate, and in a happy situation, you should think associate it and devote yourself into it!